Many men assume that when a woman prefers to be on top, it’s simply about excitement or physical advantage. But for many mature women, it goes much deeper than that.
Being on top is not just a position—it’s a state of mind.
For some women, especially those who have loved, lost, been disappointed, or learned hard lessons about trust, control equals safety. When she is on top, she can read your breathing, your reactions, your pauses. She knows when to slow down, when to linger, and when to take her time. That sense of awareness gives her comfort.
It’s not that she doesn’t trust you. In fact, it’s often the opposite.
A woman who feels secure enough to take control is usually one who has already decided you’re worth staying with. She’s no longer guessing what you want or waiting for direction. She wants to feel present, grounded, and emotionally steady—and being on top allows her to remain there.
Many women reach this preference later in life, when they are tired of pretending, tired of rushing, and tired of giving power away too easily. On top, she doesn’t feel rushed. She doesn’t feel pressured. She sets the pace, and that pace feels right to her.
Men often misunderstand this as dominance alone. But beneath it is vulnerability. Control, for her, is how she relaxes. It’s how she opens up. It’s how she feels close without feeling exposed.
And when a woman feels safe, she gives more of herself—emotionally, mentally, and intimately.
That’s what being on top really represents.
